Now is your time to grow
The program that helps queer people stop painful cycles & dysfunctional patterns so you can bring your whole, healed self to your relationships
Your Relationship Should Feel Like Home
You’re feeling overwhelmed & lonely
You sometimes feel distant or lonely in your relationship, like you can’t be your whole self because there’s too much of you (too much emotion, too much trauma). You often feel anxious and worried about how people are feeling about you and whether or not they like you.
I’ve been there too
Here’s what’s
happening right now
Your relationship feels unstable because you don’t handle conflict well. You don’t set boundaries or ask for what you need because you’re afraid they’ll leave you. You’re often triggered by small or mysterious things. Disagreement makes you shut down or panic. You’re wondering if you should break up.
You want things
to be different
You know that healing is possible but you can’t see the path forward. You’ve tried books and podcasts and friends’ advice but none of it has worked so far. You’re ready for your triggers to take a back seat to your emotional intelligence. You want to feel safe enough to be in a fight without feeling like the world is ending.
connecting with your partner
didn’t feel so hard
You’ve found yourself wishing
your partner knew how to love you
without explanation
you could stop feeling
so afraid all the time
The Relationship Reset
The program that helps queer people break painful cycles of dysfunctional behaviors and bring their whole, healed self
to their relationship
Here’s how you’re gonna break patterns
1:1 Calls
Over the course of 3 or 6 months, we’ll have 12 50-minute calls together to discuss what’s happening currently, the progress you’re making, and your goals
The Details
What’s Included
The program that helps queer people break painful cycles of dysfunctional behaviors and bring their whole, healed self to their relationship
Text Support
Five days a week, you’ll have access to text support from me so we can troubleshoot issues as they arise or just send funny cat videos back & forth
Action Items
At the end of every call, we’ll put together 3-5 things you can take action on to make continuous progress and experience noticeable growth
What Are We Doing?
Every client receives an experience that’s tailored to their specific needs & goals but there are a few core elements that everyone goes through to make the most of the program
Assess the Situation
First, we’ll assess your attachment style, stress response, and relationship triggers
Establishing these pieces early will set you up to make a lot of progress right away
Troubleshoot in Real Time
With text support & regular calls, we’ll address conflicts & triggers as they arise
Working through situations in real time keeps you acting as your more resourced self
Celebrate Growth
Every time you don’t spiral, panic, avoid, or cling & choose calm communication instead
Celebrating progress trains your brain to favor healthy behaviors over dysfunctional ones
The Investment
I offer sliding scale pricing using the Green Bottle Method to balance undermining capitalism with living in it. This allows you to choose the price that’s best for your financial situation.
One Payment
$1500 - $2500
$2000 - $3000
For couple clients
For solo clients
Biweekly
Monthly
3-month
6-month
Payment Plans
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While therapy is often reflective and slow-paced, this coaching program is goal-oriented and efficient. We focus on disrupting dysfunctional patterns and changing your behavior in real time with nervous system regulation strategies. I will hold space for challenging emotions as they come up but we will not do any deep trauma processing in this program. Our work is to recognize the unhelpful reactions and behaviors that are getting in your way, call them out, and change them.
The difference between therapy and coaching is similar to the difference between physical therapy and personal training. You would go to a physical therapist to recover and a personal trainer to grow. -
Nope! This work applies to friendships, family relationships, colleagues, it’s good for all your relationships.
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Nope! About 2/3 of my clients come by themselves to work on how they show up in their relationship. Changing your own behaviors will change your relationship, this work has a ripple effect.
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Yes
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I cannot! I am not a licensed therapist so this is out of scope for me.
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Unfortunately not but if you have an HSA/FSA you can inquire with them if they will reimburse for coaching programs, many of them do.
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Not necessarily. If you have never been to therapy but you are a reflective person who has worked on trauma processing & healing through other modalities, that’s fantastic. If you have a lot of relationship trauma but have never been to therapy before, book a sales call and we’ll discuss whether or not coaching or therapy is the better fit.
FAQs
From the Mouths of Babes
“I was struggling with confidence in myself and voicing my thoughts which was leading to frustrating conversations with my partner
Our work helped me feel more grounded and shift out of a catastrophizing place into working through things together. While 'we're a team' was something we said, I had a hard time internalizing that, but our conversations helped me frame things in a better way.”
-Wilder
“You have a gift for listening and showing people their strength.
Talking with you was so comforting, reassuring, and helpful.“
-Sarah
“You helped me see how much I have grown and that I am already doing things that will prevent me from falling into old patterns in relationships.
The affirmation list you assembled from things I said during just one conversation is amazing.”
-Valerie
“The strategies you suggested were perfect and unique to our situation
You create a very safe place to talk and your knowledge is practical and actionable. You have this perfect blend of professionalism and familiarity enabling us to talk to you as a friend.”
-Nico & Helen
"Your coaching was AMAZING (better than any therapy I had received).
I felt seen, supported, celebrated, and proactively challenged every week. I was better able to define polyamory and can speak more openly about it without shame. I’ve been able to embrace that I am more queer than I thought and that I have a tender heart and that's good."
-Jill
Your energy is so warm, open, and supportive.
I felt very seen and respected during our conversations and not at all discouraged or like an imposter.”
-Rylie
Your time is now
You can break cycles
